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The right thing to say

Posted: September 16th, 2010 | Author: | Filed under: Column, Editorial | Tags: , , , | 1 Comment »

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I got really annoyed today by someone’s foolish, outta timin’ comment. It wasn’t just the comment, which was mildly offensive and directed at me, but that the person chose to deliver it in front of a room full of people while I had the floor.

I’m not sure why the speaker chose to say what he did. Maybe he thought he was being cute. Maybe it was just his way of breaking the ice. Maybe it was honestly what he thought and he felt the burning need to say it at that time. Whatever the reason, the effect was that I got properly vex.

Not the comment so much but the whole situation sat on my chest like sour doubles for a couple of hours, until I paid a visit to a friend who is recovering from a serious illness. I hadn’t seen her in a long time, in fact, not since she got out of hospital, and I was frankly scared to visit because I am always unsure what to say in such circumstances. It’s not that I was squeamish so much as I was afraid I’d say something to make her uncomfortable about her illness and her gradual recovery. And when I was there, actually sitting next to her, it was as bad as I had feared.

But visiting her helped me put the earlier comment into perspective. Why should I let one comment ruin my day? There are people facing real problems in this world.

And having left her home, I had a chance to think about my own lack of words to say to her. I guess finding the right thing to say can be very hard sometimes.


One Comment on “The right thing to say”

  1. 1 Cheryl Wright said at 5:59 pm on September 16th, 2010:

    Lise,

    Yes, yes, yes. It is down right difficult to think of the right thing, the best thing to say in certain circumstances.

    Yes, yes, yes. In the grand scheme of things, we treat ourselves well, when we refuse to allow one inconsiderate, ill-timed or downright hurtful comment to ruin our day.

    Sure it takes strength and courage and a dollop of self-confidence but we can do if we try.

    Have a relaxing evening.


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